For several generations a wedding night was considered to be special due to the reason that it was the first time when the couple would have sex. But with the drift in time, it has become rare for a couple to have their first night sexual encounter on a wedding night due to the decreasing importance of premarital virginity. That does not mean that a first night in a wedding need not be considered special. There are chances that the newlywed lady might be interested in the intercourse act and it is good for you to make a serious effort in this direction to make the night more memorable. This has effect on the future sex life as husband and wife. The general question on the ways to deal with a first night after wedding was put forward by Mr. Alex M. here we put forward some suggestions to make the wedding night more memorable.
Putting a ban on pre wedding sex
There are chances that you might have already enjoyed each other carnally, but you can still put up the efforts to create that kind of anticipation situation which might be absent in everyday sex life just to spice up this special night. A couple can also practice banning up all the sexual contacts just some days prior to wedding so as to increase the desire for each other which may build up by the time of wedding night. It is good to hold out this feeling for twice as long as is possible which can be calculated on the time required to get frisky usually. Banning a week long sex for those accustomed to having sex a few times a week can be sufficient and in case of those who have sex only once a week, they may practice the ban for as long as a month or so before saying “I do”. To increase the appetite, it is good to have a “no nudity” condition in each other’s presence. This can be laid as an agreement as well.
Live independently
If the case is such that both of you are living together before wedding, it is good to spend the time before wedding in some other locations other than that home. It is always advisable to be confined to unfamiliar locations where one may stay in a hotel room for a night or so. It is advisable to have the first night action in some honeymoon suite rather than that location where you had sex frequently before marriage. This idea makes the couple look different and spice up the sexual feelings in one another.
Have sex early
Any wedding event which may be simply done as a casual event or as a festival is sure to leave a couple quite exhausted at the end of the event which may diminish the urge to have sex. As a tradition, the concept of having sex starts only after the reception which may then leave a couple alone to enjoy one another. If you have already indulged in sexual activity before marriage, then you may think about a different approach in this case. It is not advisable to wait till the reception has been concluded or till the entire process is done. You may sneak away during the course of reception to be left alone with your partner. Try to make things in such a way that the attendants of the reception also do not suspect something on your absence with your partner. Perhaps the maid of honor could be intimidated about the idea to cover you.
It is quite common to see a blushing bride dressed elaborately with a difficult to get into gown on the occasion of a wedding night. It is a case that she may require the help of atleast two bridesmaids to hold it up when entering a bathroom. It is a challenge indeed with such a dress during sex. You could help her undress as a part of the foreplay than letting her do so herself. You need to enjoy the act rather than getting frustrated with the complexity of the dress. This would surely become a memorable day.
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